The Essential Need for Human Connection

Human connection has always been a fundamental part of culture throughout history and is one of the most deeply rooted aspects of human nature. At its core, connection provides a sense of belonging and purpose and reminds us that we are not alone in our struggles or purpose. It is not just about being around people, but rather about authentic, meaningful bonds that foster a sense of belonging, safety, and being understood.

The increasingly digital and fast-paced world encourages us to place more focus on ourselves and our productivity while devaluing such things as attentiveness and mutual regard. Doing so ignores the deep psychological and spiritual need that we to be recognized, understood, and affirmed leaving many to feel unseen.

According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, after food, water, and safety, love and belonging are the next most essential needs. Unfortunately, current work environments can erode human connections in several powerful ways. Workplaces are often driven by metrics, performance goals, and productivity quotas, which can dehumanize interactions. Rigid hierarchies discourage vulnerability and openness, intense workloads, tight deadlines, and constant connectivity through email, etc. leave little room for meaningful pauses while at the same time rewarding stoicism at the expense of openness and authenticity. There is no hard dividing line between work and personal lives, so it has become challenging for parents to form those critically important meaningful connections with their young children that lead to healthier adult relationships and greater emotional resilience.

Studies have consistently shown that meaningful connections contribute to lower stress levels, improved mental health, and even longer life expectancy. In contrast, prolonged loneliness and feelings of not being truly seen have been linked to anxiety, depression, and a range of physical health issues, including weakened immune function and heart disease.

In a time when superficial interactions often outnumber deep ones, intentionally fostering connection—by listening more, reaching out, or simply being present—can make a profound difference. In essence, to connect is to affirm our shared humanity, and in doing so, we not only help others thrive but nurture our own capacity for joy, resilience, and hope.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month

Mental health is a crucial component of our overall well-being, influencing how we think, feel, and act at work and in our personal life. It plays a role in how we handle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. Good mental health doesn’t mean that we will feel happy all the time. It means that we can manage our emotions, handle adversity, and function well in our everyday life.

One of the biggest barriers to addressing mental health is the stigma, misunderstanding, and negative connotation that has historically prevented people from talking about their feelings. Humans have survived for thousands of years through our ability to connect, communicate, and cooperate with each other. In fact, connecting among humans is a basic need. It is as important as food, water, and shelter to our ability to thrive and survive.

Why is it so hard for people to connect in a way that makes them feel comfortable sharing their feelings and struggles? The answer seems to be our personal fear of being seen as less than, weak, or damaged. Most of us know the feeling of wanting to appear better to someone else then we think of ourselves. For two people to have the type of connection that encourages open, honest, and full sharing requires the listener to be willing to share the space of another person, without judging, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or impact the outcome. In other words, the listener must provide emotional safety, be genuine and empathetic by resonating with another’s emotions and showing understanding. Above all else, the listener must offer unwavering support and acceptance.  

Education and empathy are powerful tools in breaking the stigma. When we treat mental health with the same seriousness and compassion as physical health, we create an environment where everyone feels safe to seek help and support. It is not just the responsibility of an individual but rather a shared responsibility of families, workplaces, schools, and communities by normalizing seeking therapy or counseling.